Back in the late 80’s, I read something that really made me think. I can’t remember if it was in a book by Eugene Peterson or one by Gordon MacDonald. Anyway, the author stated that when someone came to them for counseling, he assumed, until shown otherwise, that the person really wanted help in praying more effectively.
That really stuck with me. I think that many times that is what people really want, even if they aren’t aware of it. They want a closer relationship with God. They may be focused on this, that or the other, but what they really want is the feeling that they can talk to God and he will listen.
It’s a grave mistake to set yourself up as some kind of spiritual guru. Instead, present to the other person the fact that only God can really solve their problems, that you aren’t capable of doing so and the best thing you know to do is help them present their problem to God. Let them see your dependence on God. Help them see that neither you nor any other human is really able to solve their problems, that only God can ultimately take care of things. (It helps, of course, to believe in the power of prayer!)
That’s been a great lesson for me. And a great relief, for it takes the burden of being the world’s problem solver off of my back. I don’t have to be the solution; I just have to point them to the One that can solve anything.
Tim, this is very helpful. Wish I’d come across this idea years before.
What a terrific way to keep things in perspective!
Thanks Warren. I always hope that sharing what I’ve learned from others can be of help to someone else.
Grace and peace,
Tim Archer
Thanks Mindy.
Great post Bro! Seems if we focus more on the “core” of most problems, that being a walk with Jesus, the others, with time and patience with ourselves, will work out. Thanks!
Trent
A friend in Argentina was telling me today that he heard someone on the radio say that we need to focus more of our prayer on getting closer to God rather than getting something from God.
I like that.
Grace and peace,
Tim Archer
Tim,
This is just what I needed today. I have a big decision to make. I think I was more focused on trying to solve the problem myself instead of praying and letting God lead me.
Thanks,
Alice Farough
I’m so glad the post was of use to you, Alice. May God bless you in your decision and in your walk with him.
Grace and peace,
Tim Archer