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To bash or not to bash

How do we avoid “bashing”? That is, how do we speak frankly about past mistakes and present ills without coming across as someone who sees no value in a given institution?

Church bashing. America bashing. Whatever bashing comes to mind. I’m trying to learn how to critique constructively rather than criticize destructively.

As I’ve pointed out before, there were always be some who prefer a Photoshopped version of history, that edited version where everything our group did was right and everything others did was wrong. Some will go the other way, validating what others have done without valuing anything that we have done in the past.

So where’s the line? How do we avoid the extremes? I’d appreciate any insights you have to give.

Bringing The Ark: Consuming Focus

There’s one more section I want to bring out in this story. After Michal’s criticism of David, David made a very profound response: “David said to Michal, “It was before the LORD, who chose me rather than your father or anyone from his house when he appointed me ruler over the LORD’S people Israel—I will celebrate before the LORD. I will become even more undignified than this, and I will be humiliated in my own eyes. But by these slave girls you spoke of, I will be held in honor.”” (2 Samuel 6:21-22)

David knew who his worship was directed to. He was celebrating before the Lord. He wasn’t trying to impress Michal nor anyone else. He wasn’t seeking their applause nor their approval. What he did, he did before the Lord.

Does that mean we shouldn’t be concerned about those around us when we worship? No, I don’t think we can make that argument. The discussion about the Lord’s Supper in 1 Corinthians 11 is all about being aware of those around us and including them in our worship. Paul’s argument in 1 Corinthians 14:23-25 is based on thinking about those who might observe our worship. And the passages on “the weaker brother” could even come into play.

However, I know that I’ve spent way too much time listening to the Michals of this world, trying to keep them happy. It can’t be done. As the moral of Aesop’s fable of the man, the boy and the donkey says, please all and you will please none. You can’t please everyone.

In the end, I need to focus on the God I’m worshiping and doing what pleases Him. Sometimes that will mean doing certain things for the good of those around me. But other times, it will mean worshiping Him with reckless abandon, unconcerned about the praise of men.

For some time, I subscribed to a discussion list with a number of preachers who would probably consider themselves to be more conservative than I. I felt that hearing their voices and their concerns would help me to keep a bit of balance. (I also subscribed to some lists with some I thought more liberal than I) A few weeks ago, however, I realized that the negativity I was subjecting myself to was doing me more harm than good. It was pulling me away from my focus.

I don’t want to go back. Not just to that group, but to the whole game of trying to dance to the tune others would play. I will seek to edify. I will seek to evangelize. I will not seek to offend, trying to be all things to all men.

But above all, I will serve my God.

Bringing The Ark: Consuming Criticism

We’ve been looking at 2 Samuel 6, when David brought the Ark of the Covenant to Jerusalem. We saw the tragedy of Uzzah’s touching the Ark, then looked at David’s acts of praise.

David then acted to bless those around them. He offered sacrifices so that everyone could feast before the Lord. He also provided cakes for everyone that was there. After ministering to the people, he went home to take a blessing to his family.

But not all of his family was ready to be blessed. The text says, “As the ark of the LORD was entering the City of David, Michal daughter of Saul watched from a window. And when she saw King David leaping and dancing before the LORD, she despised him in her heart.” (2 Samuel 6:16) Ouch. The whole country is celebrating the bringing of the Ark, but Michal can’t join in. She can’t rejoice with them. She can’t worship with them. She looks at her husband as he praises God, and she despises him.

Further down, we read: “When David returned home to bless his household, Michal daughter of Saul came out to meet him and said, “How the king of Israel has distinguished himself today, disrobing in the sight of the slave girls of his servants as any vulgar fellow would!”” (2 Samuel 6:20) The moment of blessing is wasted. Michal can’t receive the blessing for she is too busy criticizing.

“And Michal daughter of Saul had no children to the day of her death.” (2 Samuel 6:23) I find it so very sad. David came to bring her a blessing, but Michal came away with a curse.

Yet even though she was childless, Michal seems to have many descendants. They go to moments of worship and come away talking about what this person did and what that person didn’t do. Michal’s voice echoes even today: “He clapped!” “She raised her hands!” “They didn’t wear the right clothes!”

What’s sad is that a blessing is missed. While some are consumed with praise, others are consumed by criticism. And their faith becomes a sterile faith.

Be quiet Michal! You’ve said more than enough. It’s time to worship God and let others worship.

Focused worship

[Another old bulletin article… I’ll get back to fresh writing soon…]

I’m not really into poetry. I’m often frustrated by my lack of culture, my lack of appreciation of many of the “finer things.” I don’t particularly care for opera, nor ballet nor classical music. And I don’t read poetry.

When we had to read poetry in school, it was the rare poet who really appealed to me. One that did, however, was Robert Burns. And one of his poems that stands out in my mind is one called “To A Louse,” with the subtitle “On Seeing One on a Lady’s Bonnet at Church.” The poem addresses a louse which is crawling around on the head of a young lady. The real point of the poem, however, is the vanity of the young lady. She, noticing the looks and pointing directed her way, vainly thinks they are admiring her and begins to toss her hair. The last stanza, in modern English (Burns wrote in Scottish), says:

O would some Power the gift to give us
To see ourselves as others see us!
It would from many a blunder free us,
And foolish notion:
What airs in dress and gait would leave us,
And even devotion!

It’s a brilliant thought, and I could certainly do worse than write an article on this idea. Yet my thoughts are turned a different direction. I’m wondering how many of us would play the part of Mr. Burns in that church service, focusing our attention on the young lady in front of us and the people all around us, rather than focusing on the worship we profess to perform. How many times have we come away thinking about Jenny (the name of the girl in the poem) and her louse, rather than our Lord and His sacrifice.

I remember numerous times in Sunday School when, following a prayer, one of the children would announce: “Mrs. Davis, Bradley didn’t have his eyes closed.” This would lead to the inevitable question of course: “How do you know?” It never seemed to dawn on us children that spying on one another during the prayer was worse than not closing your eyes! (And, of course, you couldn’t close your eyes and still spy, so you were guilty of the same offense as the accused).

It’s easy to laugh at such things in children. It’s much harder to laugh at them in adults. In fact, it makes me want to cry from frustration at times.
“He raised his hands!”
“She tapped her foot!”
“He didn’t sing!”
“She sang too loud!”
and the list goes on and on.

It makes me want to reply: “How do you know?” Before you answer, let me help you with the answer: you know because you weren’t focused on God. “Well, she distracted me.” Is that her problem or yours? If you are truly focused, you don’t get distracted that easily.

I can see it in myself. There are many times when I can’t even tell you what the person next to me was doing during the service. Those are the times I was focused on God. There are other times when I’m watching the passing of the communion trays, when I’m seeing if Brother So-and-So is here, when I’m worried about the sound or the air conditioning, and I realize that God does not have my full attention.

Not to criticize Mr. Burns, but I wonder just how concentrated he was in his worship to notice the louse, to follow its movements for several minutes, to notice the reactions of those around him, to watch Jenny toss her hair, etc. If I were in his place at that moment, I would take a moment and apologize to God for my disrespect to him.
Maybe we could rewrite the poem a bit:

O would some Power the gift to give us
To see ourselves, not those around us!

Nothing good is said in the Bible of those who critically observe the worship of others (think Michal and David!). Much good is said of those who strive to worship God in Spirit and in truth.

Don’t let the lice distract you. Fix your eyes on things above. Concentrate on your worship. Because, in the final day, whose worship is God going to ask you about: yours or those around you? Will He praise us for having spotted the errors in those around us or rebuke us for neglecting Him while spying on our brothers? I’d rather not find out.

Field Guide to Church Fauna: The Fault-Finding Mole

The Fault-Finding Mole (criticali surfingus) is a close cousin to the Finger-Wagging Naysayer. This underground creature pops out unexpectedly to show everyone concerned the error of their ways.

In other ecosystems, these creatures are called “trolls”; their presence on the Internet is legendary. They surf from site to site, spreading negativity and criticism. On the Internet, as in real life, it is always easier to tear down than to build up, easier to criticize than create.

The Fault-Finding Mole craves attention. The road to domesticating them is avoiding any encouragement of their negative behavior, while affirming positive behavior. Their need for attention must be met in a positive way, while their censorious behavior must be exposed to the life-changing power of God.