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Do we dare appreciate wives and mothers in the church?

June_and_Ward_Cleaver_Leave_it_to_Beaver_1958In light of the Meghan O’Rourke article on today’s “Links To Go,” today seems like a good day to broach yet another unpopular aspect of our gender roles discussion. I think modern society has undercut and devalued the arena where women are created to shine: the home. The roles of wife and mother are seen as largely irrelevant; the stay-at-home mom is concerned to “not do anything.”

Full disclosure: My mom has a master’s degree and taught full-time for many years. Both of my sisters went to college and work full-time. My wife has a master’s, is considering a doctorate, and works outside the home. My daughter is a freshman in college, and I would have been very disappointed had she not continued her education.

I don’t think “barefoot and pregnant” is the highest calling a woman has. And I fully support any woman who wants to work outside the home.

But I think we’ve lost the value of motherhood, and that’s damaged our society and damaged our churches. And I think confusion about gender roles in society has played a part of that.

I also realize how old-fashioned that sounds, yet I know that we live in a culture where merely being a Christian is a bit old-fashioned. I’m willing to run the risk of being old-fashioned.

I believe that men were meant to provide for and support their families. I believe that women were intended to be the primary nurturers and caregivers for the children, primary creators of the home environment for the family. Each gender contributes to the other’s tasks, but I believe there is an order that works on physical, psychological, and emotional levels. (The physical is admittedly less true in modern society, at least as far as labor is concerned)

I also think that we do harm to our families, our churches, and our societies when we neglect that order.

Am I saying that our churches are doomed if women participate more? By no means. But I am saying that the goal of full egalitarianism, in my understanding, is a foolish goal. And I believe that what most pleases God is a difference in emphasis in the spheres of focus of men and women. Men aren’t to neglect the family; women aren’t to neglect the church. But their roles in those spheres are different.

And yes, I feel like a caveman even writing such words. The feminist movement has done its job well.

Thinking about the thinking about women in the church

nun statueBeen thinking about women. No, not in that way! I’ve been thinking about the different views Christians hold about women and the church. It’s amazing to me to see people try and group the views into some binary system: you’re either ___ or ___. Yeah, right. The only binary system that works is “You agree with me or you don’t.” That’s the only way to lump everybody into two groups.

Think about the different questions involved:

  • Must women remain silent in the church? Does this include singing?
  • Must women wear a head covering to church? Must it be a veil, or will a hat suffice?
  • Can women and men sit together in church?
  • Can women serve as deaconesses in an official capacity?
  • Can women stand to pass the trays of the Lord’s Supper?
  • During the assembly, can a woman answer a question asked of her by a man?
  • During the assembly, can a woman provide clarifying information during announcements?
  • During the assembly, can a woman make a prayer request?
  • Can a woman lead a prayer in the presence of a man?
  • Can a woman participate in a chain prayer?
  • Can a woman begin a chain prayer?
  • May a woman be called a minister?
  • May a woman serve as elder?
  • May a woman preach when men are present?
  • May a woman read Scripture out loud when men are present?
  • Is it right for a woman to baptize another woman?
  • Is it right for a woman to baptize a man?

I’ll stop there. Feel free to add some in the comments. I guess if you are one who says that there is absolutely no difference between men and women as regards church participation, then you can make the world a binary world. People agree with that or they don’t. But for most of the world’s population, and Christianity in general, the question is much more complex.

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